Caregiver Anger; The Hidden Pain

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In the words of spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle, "Where there is anger, there is always pain underneath." 

This quote strikes a chord with many family caregivers.

While your love and commitment may run deep, it's natural to grapple with feelings of anger or resentment from time to time.

We liken it to an iceberg…

Where anger is the visible tip above the waterline, the underlying heartaches are often hidden beneath the surface.

As you read the points below, think about recent times you've felt upset.

Is it possible that one of these common caregiving issues could be at the root of your anger?

  • Lack of control over what dementia is doing
  • Losing your sense of identity as a care partner
  • Feeling unappreciated for everything you're doing
  • Grieving or missing the relationship that was
  • Not being the patient or kind person you are known to be
  • Experiencing guilt because you want a way out

It's important you know that anger or reactivity is a normal human response to underlying pain that needs to be acknowledged and processed.

When you acknowledge your pain and give yourself space to process it, you will be able to shape experiences that align with who you want to be.

And if you're feeling strapped for time to focus on yourself...

There's something you should know.

Research shows that anger and resentment lead to a range of health problems, including migraines, sleep disorders, digestive issues, high blood pressure, heart disease, as well as mental health conditions including depression and anxiety.

In fact, 65% of primary caregivers have their own major health challenge or pass away before the person in their care because they didn't put themselves in the caregiving equation.

We don't want you to be that person. 

If this article hits close to home, it's time to address the pain beneath your anger and take proactive steps to manage it. 

This will liberate the energy you need to ensure your well-being and provide better care in the process.

And remember, seeking support and self-care are not signs of weakness.

The are crucial life strategies.

We guarantee it will ignite a spark in your heart and guide you to happier days.


P.S.   If you are a caregiving spouse or partner, we recommend you register for the newly released Marriage & Dementia Mini-Course.   

Learn from Robin in 4 transformational video coaching lessons, as she explores ways to reduce the conflict, tension, and anxiety that may be growing between you.

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